Society thinks introverts are socially awkward, boring, and don’t enjoy conversing with others. That is far from the truth.

We are people who re-charge by spending time with ourselves, enjoy peace, and find happiness in quieter environments. We prefer smaller intimate groups filled with meaningful conversations over energizing, loud, and large groups. I’ve always categorized myself as a “social introvert” because even though I have qualities of a classic introvert, I do enjoy socializing and having meaningful conversations. The goal is to encourage single introverts like ourselves to get out of our homes and form some new connections and to form our own community.

Even though we prefer smaller intimate groups, this group’s purpose is to meet new people who share the same personality types.

Event Types

There are two types of events:

Hang Outs:

“hang out” meet up is a free flow and free to attend event, which has no limit on attendance. I wanted to keep this as an opportunity for anyone and everyone to come, especially if your’e new and want to get a feel for our group. This does mean it can get very crowded. We look for an environment that is casual, chill, and a place of flexibility. There are only a few facilitated activities because when an event is free, the attendance is unknown. But, you’ll still have an opportunity to meet new friends 🙂

Connect Nights:

“connect night” events are for a more intimate setting that will allow you to meet every single person and have meaningful conversations that will allow others to get to know you (pass the surface level) and vice versa. They are ticketed ($20), systemized, controlled (capped at 20 people) and provide more in-depth conversations without the awkwardness.

Why are “connect nights” ticketed?

Attendance: In order for this system to work , we have to know who’s committed to the event.

Materials: Every station has prompts or activities to help guide you through getting to know each other in a more fun or meaningful way (no more “what do you do?” “where are you from?”)

System: The team has adopted a system (from our close friend & partner, Switch Board games) that will navigate everyone to stations so everyone can meet each other

Venue: To secure a good venue to do this, a minimum is sometimes required, and the tickets (some times) help with this.

I don’t know about you, but as an introvert, I’ve always wanted a better way to socialize. My free events get too large at times and too difficult to control, so I created this late last year — and it’s been a hit 🙂

To get tickets, get it soon before it’s sold out (every event has sold out so far :D)

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Overall, I hope you step out of your comfort zone and come to one of ours events! It’ll be fun 🙂

Note: Average Age range is 30s-50s

About Founder & Host

Hi, nice to meet you, I’m Ruby 🙂 First and foremost, yes — I am an introvert.

It surprises people when I say that because when I am hosting, I am vocal and social. But, just because I am that way does not mean I’m an extrovert. I am that way because I am the host and want you all to have a good time.

But, trust me, when I say after the events (and I usually have an energy capacity so I leave after a particular amount of time) I go home re-charge….alone. If not alone, with those very close to me.

To read more about my professional background and story as a personal dating coach, please follow this link.

As someone who went to plenty of networking events, for my work and for myself, I recognized there were rarely events geared towards introverts. And if there were, the format did not promote true meaningful, yet easy connections. It still felt uncomfortable and awkward.

So, during my work as a matchmaker/dating coach (since I had to find clients and matches for clients), I decided (for fun) to create this meetup group in Los Angeles. I put a spin on the facilitation so no one would be left out and it has grown tremendously from that idea.

I currently reside in San Diego and once the event format has solidified in this city, I will continue the other locations by potentially having my co-hosts help run them (I’m only one person, I can’t run around everywhere! Haha)

I have a passion for connecting others because its rewarding to see great people gain confidence, break out of their shell, and walk away with long-lasting friendships and potential relationships.

Interested in getting support for your dating life?

For men trying to find a woman, please click this link here to learn more about a free strategy call

Please note: After working with hundreds of single men and women, Ruby currently mainly works with men from all over the U.S. (as you can see from the website link about). However, she works with women only through the Single Social Introverts events, referral, and word of mouth.

For women trying to find a man, please this click this link here.

Our Team — Your Hosts

On top of Ruby being one of the hosts, we have a fantastic team that has taken a step forward to host connect nights as well! You may see them as co-hosts or main hosts, they’re excited to bring this community together.

Timothy A.

Timothy is a project management consultant, but has found it difficult to connect with his more extroverted coworkers. He began attending Ruby’s meetups and has been hooked ever since. He is now a host for events to help build a community in which we can make more meaningful connections.

Michelle T.

Michelle is thrilled to join the team in hosting Social Introverts Connect Night events. As a child, she was very much a wallflower and did not have many friends so she definitely understands the angst that many experience in making new connections. She is here to support you and is excited to see all in the future!

Contact & Sponsors

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